Love and Marriage

[devoted]

ai yah~

ger~ me feel tat there is reli true love~

 

but oso up to your own defination of the meaning of true love lor~

 

but oso dun love until hor, you so glue to him and your world evolve around him and him alone and worship him like your god like tat~

he say go west, u dun dare to go east~

if u and him alittle quarrel it will so affect you tat u can't work/sleep and etc~

as not healthy lor~ u will be very ke lian if there is anything lor~

 

find a good hobby or good girlfriends to go out wif you to occupy your time~

Have your own world too~

Live fulfilling as possible, have a life yourself too~

we are so young rite~ life is short~ we muz treasure, so when we old, we look back, wow~ wat an advanture we had!

 

when u got other things to balance up~

(or so call divert your attention)

tat u can find ways or other means to satisfy your needs & wants~

not depend on him and him alone to provide, it will reli release some unnecessary weights/burden or even tension from both of you,

and,

the relationship will be more long lasting de~

 

sincere blessings

[Eeleenz]

Originally posted by ^devoted^@Mar 7 2006, 04:46 PM

ai yah~

ger~ me feel tat there is reli true love~

 

but oso up to your own defination of the meaning of true love lor~

 

but oso dun love until hor, you so glue to him and your world evolve around him and him alone and worship him like your god like tat~

he say go west, u dun dare to go east~

if u and him alittle quarrel it will so affect you tat u can't work/sleep and etc~

as not healthy lor~ u will be very ke lian if there is anything lor~

 

find a good hobby or good girlfriends to go out wif you to occupy your time~

Have your own world too~

Live fulfilling as possible, have a life yourself too~

 

when u got other things to balance up~

(or so call divert your attention)

tat u can find ways or other means to satisfy your needs & wants~

not depend on him and him alone to provide, it will reli release some unnecessary weights/burden from both of you,

and,

the relationship will be more long lasting de~

 

sincere blessings

woow~ i realli like e way u handle things & speak. hehe... how i wish im like u. keke...

 

 

erm~ so far.. ok lor. for tis current bf i still noe myself. unlike in e past. they call mi to do wat, i do. like a robort. nw still not bad. kaka.. haiz... last time i treat them realli like a "Bao" lor. than they will try mi like a "Chao".

 

agree wif u. find sometht to occupy my time. i tent to glue my bf too much le. scare he will say im superglue. kaka..

 

 

10s gal.

[devoted]

ai yah~

 

we gals tend to be tooooo sacrificing in the beginning~

do too much already, in the end, is we ourselves buey 'balance' felt we reli lose out too much~ then when we complaint, he will say : " is yuo yourself ask for it, nobody ask you to do wor~ " wow~ we sure get TL by this lor~

 

it is reli a blessing to give, but when give, dont one straight do too much lor~ like very compulsive like, else, slowly he will 'dedicate' work/responsibilities to you, and you reli slog like a cow har~ moderate abit lor~

 

sometimes hor, reli need to hang him there in suspense abit : hor yi gian abit~

 

sigh~

i learn so much is oso frm my ex-bf, thanks to him i learn some vulueable truths & life philosopy which books wont be able to impart to me

[Eeleenz]

Originally posted by ^devoted^@Mar 7 2006, 04:59 PM

ai yah~

 

we gals tend to be tooooo sacrificing in the beginning~

do too much already, in the end, is we ourselves buey 'balance' felt we reli lose out too much~ then when we complaint, he will say : " is yuo yourself ask for it, nobody ask you to do wor~ " wow~ we sure get TL by this lor~

 

it is reli a blessing to give, but when give, dont one straight do too much lor~ like very compulsive like, else, slowly he will 'dedicate' work/responsibilities to you, and you reli slog like a cow har~ moderate abit lor~

 

sometimes hor, reli need to hang him there in suspense abit : hor yi gian abit~

 

sigh~

i learn so much is oso frm my ex-bf, thanks to him i learn some vulueable truths & life philosopy which books wont be able to impart to me

 

 

i oso muz thank my ex bf liao wor. lolx...

 

 

ya lor. we treat them gd end up we ourself get hurt deep deep like nobody. than they will say Feng Liang Hua. but nvm. nw i live happily. keke...

[butterscotch]

feel so sad that guys always take gals for granted..

[sowpoke]

Y only e guys gotta prob?

 

can i ask>>

 

was it e gers' choice when they chose e man???

 

or

 

did e guy force his way into e gers life???

 

 

[sowpoke]

guys gotta so many kinda...

 

its a gamble..

 

none can assure anythin until they r given a chance 2 prove..

 

even u take e ugliest guy doesnt mean he will b faithful 2 u..

 

every guy will do his very best to get e ger in bed..

 

& in a relationship it takes 2 hands to clap..

 

it will b very childish 2 put all e blame on 1 side..

 

if u r mistreated by ur Xbf..

 

DUMP him!!!

 

just face e fact he just wanna bed u after which u learn ur lesson, live better & choose wisely next time..

[Guest ViciousKitty74]

This morn, on the 95 FM.

 

There was a call in session where folks are talking about the particular statement by a wife of a player (Forgot who & dunno play what liao).

 

She allows her husband to cheat once every season. Reasoning is that if she knows, then its not cheating.

 

Whats your view?

[samurai dragon]

wow... those guys are so lucky do have a rebot:cheer:

why do you want to be their robot:confused:

 

I believe in any relationship we should respect our partner.

if you think your partner treated you badly. you should voice out or

just "NO" tell him or her the reason why you say "NO"

 

if he or she is still unreasonable. than dump that trash:mad:

 

I alway live free, wild, full of spirit and be happy.

 

 

[samurai dragon]

I think that woman is crazy.....

i think if her man ask her do have threesome

I think she may do it.

 

that is madness:mad:

 

I alway believe is one man, one woman thing.

you see I don't like do share!

we should be fateful to our partner, lover

fooling around is a BIG NO NO

 

if you go out fooling around it tell me that

you do not love and respect your partner

 

this kind of people i call them trash

can not be trust.

[devoted]

Originally posted by ViciousKitty74@Mar 8 2006, 08:59 AM

This morn, on the 95 FM.

 

There was a call in session where folks are talking about the particular statement by a wife of a player (Forgot who & dunno play what liao).

 

She allows her husband to cheat once every season. Reasoning is that if she knows, then its not cheating.

 

Whats your view?

hmmm~

this is definitely a no-no !!!

 

but of course,

if the wife herself is oso doing the same thing, and both find it is perfectly alright~

then,

i got nothing to say since it is their mutual agreement~

[samurai dragon]

I am selfish person. I will not do that. totally v the idea.

I a one body, one mind, one soul, one life time partner person.

 

 

it seem do me that girls like their man do treat them badly.

why?

[samurai dragon]

I am selfish person. I will not do that. totally against the idea.

I a one body, one mind, one soul, one life time partner person.

 

 

it seem do me that girls like their man do treat them badly.

why?

[Eeleenz]

Originally posted by ViciousKitty74@Mar 8 2006, 08:59 AM

This morn, on the 95 FM.

 

There was a call in session where folks are talking about the particular statement by a wife of a player (Forgot who & dunno play what liao).

 

She allows her husband to cheat once every season. Reasoning is that if she knows, then its not cheating.

 

Whats your view?

she's totally wire sot lor...

 

i think she's oso cheat his husband alot. so she find it ok when her husband cheated her. coz its fair. u cheat mi, i cheat u. haha...

[Eeleenz]

Originally posted by mlim@Mar 8 2006, 10:24 AM

I am selfish person. I will not do that. totally against the idea.

I a one body, one mind, one soul, one life time partner person.

 

 

it seem do me that girls like their man do treat them badly.

why?

Nan Ren Bu Huai, Nu Ren Bu Ai.

 

gals oso prevert. kakaka...

[Aie]

Wah, that wife so open minded one ah? Don't mind the husband sleeping with other women as long as she knows about it? Lucky guy but crazy wife...

[Guest ViciousKitty74]

One guy called in to say something that was quite fair and logical (to me it is).

 

And it sounds like: "Everyday eat chicken rice......"

[samurai dragon]

people who think that way are crazy....

do they know there a thing call AIDs:mad:

 

for me i rather have one life time partner:cheeky:

[Guest ViciousKitty74]

Originally posted by mlim@Mar 8 2006, 12:55 PM

do they know there a thing call AIDs

There is something thing called Condom dearie.

[samurai dragon]

if want use Condom must well don't do.

use Condom, feeling is there but don't feel real.

I rather have skin contact (if you know what i mean)

[eVa]

first things first tho, do ya believe in the romantic notion of love? i mean do you think love is a chemical response in the brain or an act of divine intervention?

 

if you don't think it's magical and all that, it really comes down to a question of being pragmatic yah? like, are you prepared to cut your losses and move on?

 

on the other hand, if ya inclined towards a more feely-touchy 'god-put-us-together' kinda route, then you're probably just going through the anger phase before you calm down and 'give him another chance'.

 

so sort through ya own stand on love first.

 

also, i think we tend to underrate the influences of culture on our personal decisions.

 

i used to have a french housemate who was married but occasionally had love affairs on the side. it wasn't simply the sex but he really did love these women(yes there are several levels of love i know). despite this, he still loved and treated his wife like she was a princess. sometimes she found out and chewed him out righteously, but he was always able to win her back. i'm sure she had a series of relationships too but nothing too serious. they are still together last i checked.

 

i just wanna point out that the weird mixture of their personalities, as well as the dominate culture within their society allowed them to 'function' that way. in fact, cheating emotionally is worse than sexual infidelity.

 

as far as most asians are concerned though... infidelity is infidelity. setting aside the tolerance issue, the only thing that significantly differs between our culture and the euros (pun not intended) is that women in asia tend to be portrayed as the victims by not only others, but by themselves too. they are always reactive rather and proactive about their situation. after watching in anguish the injustices my mother had to put up with in her marriage, i married a girl who won't put up with that kinda sh!t. my wife isn't afraid to breech difficult or sensative questions with me. she won't take crap from anyone, including me. sounds fair i think!

 

it's not about 'him' or 'her' or 'rights', disregard the social stigmas and tags. people should be treated equally and fairly as individuals. 'working overseas' and 'loneliness' is a p!ss poor excuse for anybody. i don't know of any guy who would accept that excuse if their wife was found cheating on him, but i know lots of girls who would if the situation was reversed tho..... so what gives? back in the old days, it was a matter of preserving economic security and of course, reputation, that women suffered in silence. are we still living in that age? do you depend on your husband financially? do you care that the frens and neighbours know that he is unfaithful?

 

you can't love anybody until you learn to love and respect yourself first.

darling, you are the centre of the universe!

 

 

p.s: please don't think abt stuff like this when you ride, a fren of mine did and got into a 7 year coma. he passed on 4 years ago. it simply ain't worth it.

[Eeleenz]

Originally posted by mlim@Mar 8 2006, 12:55 PM

people who think that way are crazy....

do they know there a thing call AIDs:mad:

 

for me i rather have one life time partner:cheeky:

strongly agree...! those who fool ard, better die faster & dun spread disease to others.

[Eeleenz]

Originally posted by ViciousKitty74@Mar 8 2006, 01:07 PM

There is something thing called Condom dearie.

Condom cannot 100% prevent AIDS.

[Guest ViciousKitty74]

Originally posted by Eeleenz@Mar 8 2006, 03:13 PM

Condom cannot 100% prevent AIDS.

Then here is another question.

 

Will you love someone who has aids?

[Guest ViciousKitty74]

Originally posted by Eeleenz@Mar 8 2006, 03:13 PM

Condom cannot 100% prevent AIDS.

That will depend on the contact and how Aids is transmitted.

 

100% no.

 

100% yes. if you view it in its divided category.