Can friends be colleagues?

[shirl]

I believe there will be different views on this.

 

 

Can friends be colleagues?

[GuiNNeSS]

Only if the friend that you know, are able to work and not drag you and your team down. Someone that can keep up to your pace.

 

I find that I work well supplementing others. But not leading others. I hate working with people who wants to lead, but cannot even match my standard or pace. And I hate leading.

[Naz]

I believe if both are matured, regardless of friends or not, they could be colleagues.

 

Problem starts when either one lacks that fundamental, mixing emotions/history/relationship into professional aspect of career.

[barefoot]

why not? but some people make good colleagues but not friends and vice versa

[CSV]

yeah, depends on the chemistry as well.

 

some are great as friends, terrible as colleagues and vice versa.

[Guest Eason]

Depends..... a line must be draw between friends and colleagues very clearly.

[GuiNNeSS]

I spent 2 years in south east London and then 3 in north London. I found north London friendlier on the whole but that's not saying much.

When I left London I thought I would miss it but I don't and I hardly ever go back.

Maybe you could join a church or a reading group or do an evening class.

Otherwise maybe think about getting some work experience and going back to your home town with your experience for a better job.

At least you will have your friends and family around.

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[swiftee]

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its just a high tech spam la.

 

 

dont make your friends into direct colleagues.

but its ok to make colleagues into friends, but you must not forget they are also your colleagues! (e.g. no telling of dirty secrets etc.)

[AliDavidSum]

why not? but some people make good colleagues but not friends and vice versa

 

Fully Agree.

 

Good colleagues do not mean can be good friend.

 

Good colleagues are usually very helpful, but will always think for company first. They will discourage you to go to another company which offer you better opporunity.

 

Good friends will tell you to grad the better opporunity before it is gone.

 

Good friends do not always means good colleagues.

 

Heard of cases when Friend brings in a good friend into same company, both become arch enemies colleagues.

[gohjohan]

Fully Agree.

 

Good colleagues do not mean can be good friend.

 

Good colleagues are usually very helpful, but will always think for company first. They will discourage you to go to another company which offer you better opporunity.

 

Good friends will tell you to grad the better opporunity before it is gone.

 

Good friends do not always means good colleagues.

 

Heard of cases when Friend brings in a good friend into same company, both become arch enemies colleagues.

 

Thanks. I was going to say that. That's why I always believe friends cannot become colleagues but colleagues can become friends. I have seen friends become colleagues work successfully but I haven't found out the exact formula yet.

[Wayang]

i'm more interested in how to get out of the friend zone and into the lovers dept hahaha.. as u guys noe once a girl categorise u as a "friend" its damn tough to claw ur way out

[Mrace]

Yes i think it's possible.. at least i've done it before.. I make a point that work is work, fun is fun..

[Im_A_Rider]

Its hard to get true friends. only family is the one by urside.

[GuiNNeSS]

i'm more interested in how to get out of the friend zone and into the lovers dept hahaha.. as u guys noe once a girl categorise u as a "friend" its damn tough to claw ur way out

 

Simple. Stop being a friend. They will forever treat you as a back-up. Females are attracted to people that complement their lives aka Add values to their lives. Not materialisticly, but hope. eg. If you planned your life, with or without them, and its a life that they see will benefit them emotionally and grow them. They will rather be looking at you romantically instead of as friends.

 

And only once when you refuse to function as a backup tyre, then they can really look at you and value you as to whether you are really someone they shouldnt take for granted.

 

Everyone enjoys being chased, but if you make it such that they have to chase after you, they make better effort to speed themselves up to match your pace.

[mild_slevin]

I find that there be time where conflict would arise some how might "blacken" the relationship....

[GuiNNeSS]

Should boyfriend/girlfriends be business partners? And when the relationships turns sour? I have a couple of examples, but this is a recent one.

 

She owns a condo. He is fairly well to do. She is divorced. They got together and used the condo address as a business address and formed a business partnership.

 

She couldnt keep up with her condo installments, having just recently have to pay for her mother's medical bills, to which the mother passed away eventually. He refused to help, unless he was included into her condo in name and that they marry.

 

She is hesistant about marrying, because he has been abusing her verbally and physically.

 

So she made arrangements to sell off her condo. Only to find that he had instead gone to lodge caveat against the sale, claiming that she owes her money. She had it removed, and surprisingly, before another sale, he lodged another caveat and the sale could not go thru. She was at her wits end, because if the banks foreclosure on the condo, she will really have nothing and will be in worse off debts.

 

His condition, is that she must marry him, and he even went to set a date where she is required to show up and marry him, via a soloemisation ceremony.

 

She finally quietly sneak away from the Condo. Stayed away at some budget hotels and deal with the selling of the condo.

 

This guy, then keep harrassing her, her work manager and her collegues, by calling, claiming that she is missing, her ex hubby urgently looking for her blah blah blah. He calls very hour. And everytime, her car moved to whatever location, he will be there waiting demanding to talk to her, or he will stare at whoever she is with like, for the whole duration they are out. She suspect her car and handphone was bugged.

 

He still is attempting to harrass her collegues for her information and her whereabouts. And even made a couple of police reports claiming she is 'Missing and so on". Thankfully, she finally took advice, to make a police report against his harrassment and the last attempt he tried to make regards to 'missing person' was rebuffed.

 

I was surprised, that at this time and age, still got such 'lovesick' man.

[ChaoPuzzy1968]

Collegues and Friend is like 5hit and sperm

 

while you can work with 5hit and play with sperm , but playing with 5hit and working with sperm can be a challenge.

 

and if you want to mixed the 2 up , imagine fertilise 5hit or shitty sperm but both normally end up in the sewer.

[swiftee]

Yes i think it's possible.. at least i've done it before.. I make a point that work is work, fun is fun..

 

some friend on the surface very nice... behind backstab...

[Wayang]

haha.. thanks kitty.. i wasnt really expecthing an answer but nevertheless ur advice is noted

[gohjohan]

Yes i think it's possible.. at least i've done it before.. I make a point that work is work, fun is fun..

 

So work and fun are separate? I supposed part of the formula is know when to switch. The other part is having trusted friends.

 

Should boyfriend/girlfriends be business partners? And when the relationships turns sour? I have a couple of examples, but this is a recent one.

 

She owns a condo. He is fairly well to do. She is divorced. They got together and used the condo address as a business address and formed a business partnership.

 

She couldnt keep up with her condo installments, having just recently have to pay for her mother's medical bills, to which the mother passed away eventually. He refused to help, unless he was included into her condo in name and that they marry.

 

She is hesistant about marrying, because he has been abusing her verbally and physically.

 

So she made arrangements to sell off her condo. Only to find that he had instead gone to lodge caveat against the sale, claiming that she owes her money. She had it removed, and surprisingly, before another sale, he lodged another caveat and the sale could not go thru. She was at her wits end, because if the banks foreclosure on the condo, she will really have nothing and will be in worse off debts.

 

His condition, is that she must marry him, and he even went to set a date where she is required to show up and marry him, via a soloemisation ceremony.

 

She finally quietly sneak away from the Condo. Stayed away at some budget hotels and deal with the selling of the condo.

 

This guy, then keep harrassing her, her work manager and her collegues, by calling, claiming that she is missing, her ex hubby urgently looking for her blah blah blah. He calls very hour. And everytime, her car moved to whatever location, he will be there waiting demanding to talk to her, or he will stare at whoever she is with like, for the whole duration they are out. She suspect her car and handphone was bugged.

 

He still is attempting to harrass her collegues for her information and her whereabouts. And even made a couple of police reports claiming she is 'Missing and so on". Thankfully, she finally took advice, to make a police report against his harrassment and the last attempt he tried to make regards to 'missing person' was rebuffed.

 

I was surprised, that at this time and age, still got such 'lovesick' man.

 

She should make a police report if she's physically abused. My ex-colleague went to the police when her brother beat her.

[jacob12]

Yeah man try not to go into business w gd fren....money hurts r/s

[GuiNNeSS]

You know....there is plenty of other interesting threads out here on chatterbox, for you to type some little things to qualify yourself to post to sell things.......instead of spamming chinese new year messages......and we created enough interestings threads....from flip flops,dong zhi and even new year resolutions.....

[Ken_6565]

Depends. Colleagues are the people you spend max time with. Time will tell if they can turn into confidantes

[JSCJL]

When I work, there's no such thing as friends but colleagues. Yep. Never mix social relationship with work relationship. Else if any conflicts occur, you'll lose a friend (;

[jockey]

colleagues can become husband n wife. Of course friends can be colleagues lah.

But i agree w JSCJL...when come to work, nvr mix social r/s w work r/s