Wedding.....

[Guest ViciousKitty74]

wahhhh........its times like these you really knows who your rich friends are

[mctan]

I find that wedding is not a must have type, but its good to have. A girl married to a guy, once a life time.. she tresure that moment alot....

Got a bit of money, do some special and grand.

Not much cash to spare, do something simple and nice.

[mctan]

Originally posted by ViciousKitty74@Oct 3 2005, 03:00 PM

wahhhh........its times like these you really knows who your rich friends are

whahaaha..... hmm....

From the wedding...I release that...

those well to do one gave less, and those not so well to do one gave more.....

[lady_rider]

depends lor/

[Guest ViciousKitty74]

Originally posted by mctan@Oct 3 2005, 03:05 PM

whahaaha..... hmm....

From the wedding...I release that...

those well to do one gave less, and those not so well to do one gave more.....

Arrrr......those are the ones who perfected the, "I am extremely poor, but I am actually cash rich and generous." act of kiasuism.

[mctan]

Originally posted by ViciousKitty74@Oct 3 2005, 03:31 PM

act of kiasuism.

Sometime its good to act kiasuism, at least it help others.......

[skydude]

Originally posted by Lass@Oct 2 2005, 02:21 PM

my rom was my 'wedding' haha, had a bbq at pasir ris chalet after that. a yr later take wedding pix and buffet lunch. hubby n i refuse to go thru all tat jazz n our parents r ok w it

wah ur parent n his parent side so understanding......

 

how i wish i had such wonderful parents......

[LobsterSalad]

Originally posted by haryann@Oct 3 2005, 11:47 AM

My humble opinion,

 

If the 2 parties are agreeable to whateva decision the couple makes, or, if the couple are agreeable to whateva decision their 2 parents makes, then by all means, go ahead with the wedding dinner/custom/rom/tea party etc etc.

 

Everybody involve here must be mature enough to make decisions. Alot of the decision I noticed are mostly based on impulse, wanting to look good, wanting to be above everyone else, what society will say, being vain etc etc. It doesn't matter how rich you are, if the decision are based on mostly whateva is said above, then the marriage will be in trouble.

 

I don't believe in the theory that if the couple cannot fork out a few thousand bucks for a simple wedding dinner, then they're not ready for marriage. Does that mean that marriages are only for the well off? No. I think poor ppl have the right to get married as well. Most important is they must be mature enough for family life!

My opinion is to have a grand one.. afterall, it onli comes once.. the more ppl that comes the more ang baos u will have.. can at least salvage some costs.. but since its a once in a lifetime exp, i think one shd splurge..

[skydude]

Originally posted by LobsterSalad@Oct 3 2005, 06:23 PM

but since its a once in a lifetime exp, i think one shd splurge..

but not to e extend of straining e relationship.

 

think of how useful e 20k (use on wedding) can do ....

eg : house loan , renovation , child's clothes , education ?

i mean 20k for each of the examples stated.

[skydude]

got any1 work for conciling? need help to brain wash my tai tai not to hold wedding

[LobsterSalad]

Originally posted by skydude@Oct 3 2005, 06:47 PM

got any1 work for conciling? need help to brain wash my tai tai not to hold wedding

u wont spend 20 k la.. the more ppl that attends the more money u get bk wad.. so at most u lose a few k.

[comics00]

Originally posted by mctan@Oct 3 2005, 04:20 PM

Sometime its good to act kiasuism, at least it help others.......

i don't know abt those ppl that u invited to ur wedding. for ppl i know we all have a market rate for ang pao so to help out the new couple

1) resturant usally $60 per head 'cos ea table will not cost >$500

2) hotel $80-$100 depending on the hotel we will aga aga know the cost per table. there r exception also, the highest i gave was $168 per head 'cos it was $1,200 per table

with this market the couple usually will not need to fork out too much $$ for wedding dinner. like i mention b4 my buddy actually made ~$11,000 from the dinner

[redhotchilli]

wedding dinner is like an announcement to ur friends and relatives tat u are married, its also to share the love and joy with the couple and getting their blessing...

however there are more than one way to do tat other than have a wedding dinner...

if the gal just wan something memoriable, i dun think the dinner is a gd way... i know for sure after all that the couple actually is very tired... i would rather do a little surprise at a beach with chalet, together with a romantic honeymoon, of cos with a wedding dress.. hit her with a surprise without her laying a finger on any job...

actually i love to have my wedding at the beach... dun wan hotel, restuarant or anything...

[jojobitch]

Originally posted by skydude@Oct 3 2005, 06:47 PM

got any1 work for conciling? need help to brain wash my tai tai not to hold wedding

Why need to brain wash her ?

If she wants it, give it to her.

Trust me, you won't have to deal with her resentment few years down the road.

 

When your marriage goes through a rough spot, she'll definitely bring up this issue sooner or later. That she didn't get her wish and resented the decision and so on.......nag nag nag nag nag.. get the drift ?

 

So.. save yourself the agony ..... don't stinge on this now.....

[LobsterSalad]

Originally posted by jojobitch@Oct 4 2005, 04:49 AM

Why need to brain wash her ?

If she wants it, give it to her.

Trust me, you won't have to deal with her resentment few years down the road.

 

When your marriage goes through a rough spot, she'll definitely bring up this issue sooner or later. That she didn't get her wish and resented the decision and so on.......nag nag nag nag nag.. get the drift ?

 

So.. save yourself the agony ..... don't stinge on this now.....

Haha coming from a veteran:p

 

but i agree la.. Dun stinge now.. its once in a lifetime.. Make it a worthwhile exp. one that u can look bk on when u r old.

[jojobitch]

Originally posted by mctan@Oct 3 2005, 11:29 AM

I had just married last week.

What I find that, wedding.......need ton of $$$$$$$...

ROM last year, it cost around 2k.. for lunch, flower, ring. photographer etc.

Wedding.... last friday.. cost 28k, banquent dinner, buffets during tea ceremony xiaodi, jiemei angbao etc...

Bridal package and bridal shop, cost 4.5k.

 

 

 

 

:nono:

Mctan,

Thanks for the heads up on the costing .. but I'm pretty sure you and your spouse went for the above average price range for the packages.

I know there's cheaper options out there.. just as good.. but maybe not as comprehensive....

 

 

However painful it is on your pocket.. my question is... do you REGRET getting all the frills done ???

 

According to my knowlege..so far... no one who has gone thru the motion ever regretted that they did. Except for the money part...but ofcourse money can earn back wat ?

 

However... several people I know has regretted NOT going through it.

 

When all is rosy... everyone is happy.. when times get though the tough times comes back and haunt you ....

[haryann]

Originally posted by mctan@Oct 3 2005, 11:29 AM

I had just married last week.

What I find that, wedding.......need ton of $$$$$$$...

ROM last year, it cost around 2k.. for lunch, flower, ring. photographer etc.

Wedding.... last friday.. cost 28k, banquent dinner, buffets during tea ceremony xiaodi, jiemei angbao etc...

Bridal package and bridal shop, cost 4.5k.

 

 

 

 

:nono:

mctan,

 

CONGRATULATIONS on your wedding day!

[jojobitch]

Originally posted by haryann@Oct 3 2005, 11:47 AM

I don't believe in the theory that if the couple cannot fork out a few thousand bucks for a simple wedding dinner, then they're not ready for marriage. Does that mean that marriages are only for the well off? No. I think poor ppl have the right to get married as well. Most important is they must be mature enough for family life!

hmmmm.. what I meant was that they are Financially not ready.

 

Oh yes.. yes.. I agree that poor people has the right to get married too.

Anyone infact.. even the gays and lesbians.. and single senior citizens etc etc.

 

BUT, the question is..... is getting... married when the dough has not enough flour to make a good bread.... THE MOST RESPONSIBLE thing to do ???????

 

What becomes of your marriage when everyday.. worries about money becomes part of your married life??

What becomes of your offsprings when there is not enough financial resources to feed them with ???

 

A true life story....

Alice married a odd job laborer who also turns out to be a chronic gambler.

Always not enough money for food and some daily neccessities.

They usually eat instant noodles to get by everyday.

Soon, Alice got pregnant.. maybe no money to buy condom???

The baby was born premature and underweight.. a tiny being.. like a small newborn kitten.

Everyone thinks the baby won't make it.. but she did....

Alice's younger sister Angel.. out of pity.. gave Alice money every month out of her own pocket .. so Alice's baby won't starve. And Angel pays for the medical bills of little Alice's baby....including the open heart surgery.

 

Couple of years later.. Alice is pregnant again.... How ??

Should Angel continues with her donation and extend it to the second child ?

Should Alice abort the child ??

 

Poor people has the rights.. yes.. but will it mean someone else has to pay for it ???

 

Everyone has the human rights.. but please do the RIGHT thing ok? Good.

[haryann]

Originally posted by jojobitch@Oct 4 2005, 08:45 AM

hmmmm.. what I meant was that they are Financially not ready.

 

Oh yes.. yes.. I agree that poor people has the right to get married too.

Anyone infact.. even the gays and lesbians.. and single senior citizens etc etc.

 

BUT, the question is..... is getting... married when the dough has not enough flour to make a good bread.... THE MOST RESPONSIBLE thing to do ???????

 

What becomes of your marriage when everyday.. worries about money becomes part of your married life??

What becomes of your offsprings when there is not enough financial resources to feed them with ???

 

A true life story....

Alice married a odd job laborer who also turns out to be a chronic gambler.

Always not enough money for food and some daily neccessities.

They usually eat instant noodles to get by everyday.

Soon, Alice got pregnant.. maybe no money to buy condom???

The baby was born premature and underweight.. a tiny being.. like a small newborn kitten.

Everyone thinks the baby won't make it.. but she did....

Alice's younger sister Angel.. out of pity.. gave Alice money every month out of her own pocket .. so Alice's baby won't starve. And Angel pays for the medical bills of little Alice's baby....including the open heart surgery.

 

Couple of years later.. Alice is pregnant again.... How ??

Should Angel continues with her donation and extend it to the second child ?

Should Alice abort the child ??

 

Poor people has the rights.. yes.. but will it mean someone else has to pay for it ???

 

Everyone has the human rights.. but please do the RIGHT thing ok? Good.

Agree with you on the part about financially not ready.

 

About gays and lesbians getting married, hmmm, I guess different ppl have their own opinion and argument on that. And I don't want to be involve in this somewhat sensitive and taboo topic.

 

The true life story:-

 

...odd job labourer who also turns out to be a chronic gambler.

 

Some of of might disagree with me, but this is the part where immaturity comes in. And that's the part where I stress upon most, maturity.

 

Actually I have a few good true life stories myself about how poor ppl being able to manage their married life without the need of monetory or other form of support from anyone, charitable organisation or government.

 

And yes, I strongly agree on the part about everyone has the human right, but please do the right thing!

[mctan]

Originally posted by skydude@Oct 3 2005, 06:47 PM

got any1 work for conciling? need help to brain wash my tai tai not to hold wedding

Base what I heard, and the gals who I know. At least 98% of them want to have a wedding. 2% wants to go for a good/superb honeymoon.

None of them wants to marry with nothing(I mean either weding or honeymoon)......

[mctan]

Originally posted by haryann@Oct 4 2005, 08:40 AM

mctan,

 

CONGRATULATIONS on your wedding day!

Thank you.

[mctan]

Originally posted by jojobitch@Oct 4 2005, 08:26 AM

Mctan,

Thanks for the heads up on the costing .. but I'm pretty sure you and your spouse went for the above average price range for the packages.

I know there's cheaper options out there.. just as good.. but maybe not as comprehensive....

 

 

However painful it is on your pocket.. my question is... do you REGRET getting all the frills done ???

 

According to my knowlege..so far... no one who has gone thru the motion ever regretted that they did. Except for the money part...but ofcourse money can earn back wat ?

 

However... several people I know has regretted NOT going through it.

 

When all is rosy... everyone is happy.. when times get though the tough times comes back and haunt you ....

The wedding that I had, its a average one. There are more ex one and there more inexpensive one depend.

There were alot of planning, sourcing, arrangement, organising etc jobs involved, not only $$$...

I went thru it, no regret.

[Precious]

nowadays do we still have Chinese celebrating their "customary" wedding under the void deck ??

like the olden days ... all so united and so much fun ...

and save cost also ...

[mctan]

Originally posted by Precious@Oct 4 2005, 10:22 AM

nowadays do we still have Chinese celebrating their "customary" wedding under the void deck ??

like the olden days ... all so united and so much fun ...

and save cost also ...

Hm...

Hardly see it. I think the most its at CC.

Void deck abit risky, scully kanna funeral

Somemore nowadays, ppl want it to be nice and grand...

[QuietStorm]

I would love to hav a very simple wedding... juz my family n close frens... Hold a simple reception @ Sentosa Sharkey restaurant... Romantic place... cos i not very close wif other aunties n uncles... so ok... but if can dun get married dat will be better... enjoy life.... i know marrige is a blessing too... hehe!!!

 

Izit a must to hav kids nowadays?