Female Learning 2B for Fun at Age 35 (But Its Beginning to Give Me Stress Instead)

[wishforastar]

On 12/10/2020 at 10:02 PM, snsd555 said:

Congrats! 1 more year to signing up for Class 2A!

Have you bought a bike or decided on what bike to buy?

Actually I'm using the licence to rent bike when I travel overseas. Although there are many places that do not require a licence to rent a bike, there are some places that do need it, especially those established, reputable places.

[736cc]

23 hours ago, wishforastar said:

Actually I'm using the licence to rent bike when I travel overseas. Although there are many places that do not require a licence to rent a bike, there are some places that do need it, especially those established, reputable places.

should just buy one in sg for joy ride. will be fun

[ndvq]

On 2/29/2020 at 12:19 AM, GREYS said:

Hi everyone,

 

I dont know if anyone would be reading this but i thought it might be a good space for me to talk about my experience so far and hear some insights from anyone whos willing to share or join in the discussion.

 

Learning to ride a bike has always been a dream of mine since i was a young lady but it did not happen. Conventional Asian parents- girls shouldnt ride a bike, bikes are too dangerous. Naturally, i obtained my class 3 license 17 years ago and have been driving ever since.... thus the dream of riding a bike drifted further into the back of my head until recently!

 

It started ok at the beginning.... The beginners thrill of getting on the bike.. and learning something new for the first time... it was all fun. As i proceeded further into the course... what i thought would be a really fun thing for me started to give me stress. The strict rules and regimental way of learning unconsciously gives me a form of stress. I remember fondly of the days learning my class 3 manual license under a private instructor and had sooooo much fun every lesson.... Also most of my life i grew up and studied overseas where learning felt more free and flexible. I had no idea being in a regimental school environment would cause me the stress i'm currently facing.

 

Failing subjects do make me feel lousy about myself from time to time... so far the most i had to repeat was up to three attempts for obstacles like the Pylon (the first 2 instructors, believe it or not... didnt explain the technique needed to get through the pylon. All they said was "dont look at the cone" and ask you to pick up the cone everytime you knock down a cone. At one time, there were 3 classes sharing the plank/pylon.... the que was really long.... each time someone knocks a cone, they park the bike, pick it up, go back to their bike and move off.......

 

It also doesnt help on the days when you meet instructors whom i personally feel lack a sense of passion in their job- they give no detailed instructions, they would do the bare minimal by giving the class a demonstration and leave it to you to trial and error, hoping you get it right by the end of 100 minutes. There are also those whom would give in-constructive feedback or make unnecessary passing remark not related to the lesson instead of giving constructive feedback to help correct your mistake as you go. Its days like that.... that really puts me off. Trainees only focus should be to receive constructive feedback and constantly correct themselves to master whats needed to get through every obstacle. All the disrespectful remarks, authoritarian attitude feels uncalled for and counter productive for learning. It makes the experience unpleasant when it doesnt have to be this way.

 

Its unfortunate there isnt an option to select a fixed instructors time table... or hire a private riding instructor to allow myself to learn in a way i find would help me better. And i do get that it is what it is, i need to learn to accept and deal with it.... Yesterday i had one of my worst days so far and went home just feeling like crap and wondering why i needed to take crap comments for something im paying for and wanting to do for the fun of it...... Decided to take some time off from the lesson to recharge myself enough before going back for lesson again.

 

Perhaps you had or am facing similar feelings, would be great to hear from you guys?

Thank you for reading.

Honestly, the driving school makes a huge difference. I started out learning my 2B at BBDC and had the best time, loved and looked forward to every lesson. Instructors were fun and professional (and would keep an extra lookout if you were female usually!), there was a clear lesson structure, and a pretty fixed team of instructors who would look after each batch. Even felt a little sad each time I passed my test for 2B, 2A and 2, cause it meant that I wouldn't have anymore lessons for a while! 

For 2A, I thought I would try learning at Ubi instead since it was nearer to my house. Horrors. Terrible lesson structure. Felt lost throughout 90% of the time, not knowing where to go or what to do. Instructors didn't care. Was left to ride around on my own most of the time. Gave up after 2 lessons and immediately signed up at BBDC again, even though I had to ride to the other end of Singapore for the lessons. It was worth it. 

[adesmond2]

On 2/29/2020 at 12:19 AM, GREYS said:

Hi everyone,

 

I dont know if anyone would be reading this but i thought it might be a good space for me to talk about my experience so far and hear some insights from anyone whos willing to share or join in the discussion.

 

Learning to ride a bike has always been a dream of mine since i was a young lady but it did not happen. Conventional Asian parents- girls shouldnt ride a bike, bikes are too dangerous. Naturally, i obtained my class 3 license 17 years ago and have been driving ever since.... thus the dream of riding a bike drifted further into the back of my head until recently!

 

It started ok at the beginning.... The beginners thrill of getting on the bike.. and learning something new for the first time... it was all fun. As i proceeded further into the course... what i thought would be a really fun thing for me started to give me stress. The strict rules and regimental way of learning unconsciously gives me a form of stress. I remember fondly of the days learning my class 3 manual license under a private instructor and had sooooo much fun every lesson.... Also most of my life i grew up and studied overseas where learning felt more free and flexible. I had no idea being in a regimental school environment would cause me the stress i'm currently facing.

 

Failing subjects do make me feel lousy about myself from time to time... so far the most i had to repeat was up to three attempts for obstacles like the Pylon (the first 2 instructors, believe it or not... didnt explain the technique needed to get through the pylon. All they said was "dont look at the cone" and ask you to pick up the cone everytime you knock down a cone. At one time, there were 3 classes sharing the plank/pylon.... the que was really long.... each time someone knocks a cone, they park the bike, pick it up, go back to their bike and move off.......

 

It also doesnt help on the days when you meet instructors whom i personally feel lack a sense of passion in their job- they give no detailed instructions, they would do the bare minimal by giving the class a demonstration and leave it to you to trial and error, hoping you get it right by the end of 100 minutes. There are also those whom would give in-constructive feedback or make unnecessary passing remark not related to the lesson instead of giving constructive feedback to help correct your mistake as you go. Its days like that.... that really puts me off. Trainees only focus should be to receive constructive feedback and constantly correct themselves to master whats needed to get through every obstacle. All the disrespectful remarks, authoritarian attitude feels uncalled for and counter productive for learning. It makes the experience unpleasant when it doesnt have to be this way.

 

Its unfortunate there isnt an option to select a fixed instructors time table... or hire a private riding instructor to allow myself to learn in a way i find would help me better. And i do get that it is what it is, i need to learn to accept and deal with it.... Yesterday i had one of my worst days so far and went home just feeling like crap and wondering why i needed to take crap comments for something im paying for and wanting to do for the fun of it...... Decided to take some time off from the lesson to recharge myself enough before going back for lesson again.

 

Perhaps you had or am facing similar feelings, would be great to hear from you guys?

Thank you for reading.

Hi G,

Yes, there's still a number of people in this forum.. I come in once in a blue moon (2-6 months once).. Rest assured you are not the only one.. I'm almost 40.. Just gotten my 2A a few days ago. Class 3 for 16 years, Class 2B for 13 years.

Indeed, irregardless of gender, the saying is always human meat vs metal. Human curiosity will always goes towards any direction. Sometimes 2B is enough sometimes need class 2 despite you won't be using the max power of it.

Don't worry about the failing. they always say, failure is the mother of success. It will be great if you have a friend who is willing to go with you to your lessons, so that you can learn with each other and have a common topic. It will further encourage yourself. If you need further "advises". dun hesitate to ask here. I'm sure a lot of people is willing to share their experiences.

I agreed with "some instructors are there to get their pay check " so I'll just keep asking until I get it. If not, I'll ask another instructor next lesson if I'm being failed for that lesson.

Meanwhile, it's good to take some time off but dun drag, they always have this saying. Just do it while the feeling is still fresh.. I just keep on pushing until I gotten my 2A, the moment once the desire to continue is dying and if you let it cool it off, you might not want to go back again. (my advise - just go for it, get to know people in the centre, have a chat if possible.) ^_^

 

Lastly, just ask if you need any advises. There's a lot of people who might knows and just pass also. 

[adesmond2]

On 12/7/2020 at 2:30 PM, SBF said:

@GREYS @wishforastar

How have things been going on the journey of getting your 2B license? A lot of exam dates are backed up due to the Circuit Breaker situation. Hope all has been well?

Good luck for your TP and hang in there, it's not a matter of IF, but a matter of WHEN!

Hi Administrator! Who are you? Still one of the old birds? Or change administrator already? LOL..

 

I see the forum layout and colour change already.. 

[SBF]

On 2/4/2021 at 6:33 AM, adesmond2 said:

Hi Administrator! Who are you? Still one of the old birds? Or change administrator already? LOL..

 

I see the forum layout and colour change already.. 

SBF big boss @Andy is still around of course..

[Andy]

On 2/6/2021 at 10:57 PM, SBF said:

SBF big boss @Andy is still around of course..

Who looking for meeee?

 

[adesmond2]

18 minutes ago, Andy said:

Who looking for meeee?

 

haha.. hihi.. long time no "see".. how are you? 

I tot change administrator liaoz.. since the page all become white liaoz.. used to be black de lei.. LOL

[Andy]

We are undergoing some major transformation for the better!

Stay tuned!

 

[Siphon]

On 2/8/2021 at 6:05 PM, Andy said:

We are undergoing some major transformation for the better!

Stay tuned!

 

Oh nice~~ Just came back and I thought i was remembering things differently... Glad to see this forum still alive!

 

[鲁蛇不是鲁蛇]

On 2/29/2020 at 12:19 AM, GREYS said:

Hi everyone,

 

I dont know if anyone would be reading this but i thought it might be a good space for me to talk about my experience so far and hear some insights from anyone whos willing to share or join in the discussion.

 

Learning to ride a bike has always been a dream of mine since i was a young lady but it did not happen. Conventional Asian parents- girls shouldnt ride a bike, bikes are too dangerous. Naturally, i obtained my class 3 license 17 years ago and have been driving ever since.... thus the dream of riding a bike drifted further into the back of my head until recently!

 

It started ok at the beginning.... The beginners thrill of getting on the bike.. and learning something new for the first time... it was all fun. As i proceeded further into the course... what i thought would be a really fun thing for me started to give me stress. The strict rules and regimental way of learning unconsciously gives me a form of stress. I remember fondly of the days learning my class 3 manual license under a private instructor and had sooooo much fun every lesson.... Also most of my life i grew up and studied overseas where learning felt more free and flexible. I had no idea being in a regimental school environment would cause me the stress i'm currently facing.

 

Failing subjects do make me feel lousy about myself from time to time... so far the most i had to repeat was up to three attempts for obstacles like the Pylon (the first 2 instructors, believe it or not... didnt explain the technique needed to get through the pylon. All they said was "dont look at the cone" and ask you to pick up the cone everytime you knock down a cone. At one time, there were 3 classes sharing the plank/pylon.... the que was really long.... each time someone knocks a cone, they park the bike, pick it up, go back to their bike and move off.......

 

It also doesnt help on the days when you meet instructors whom i personally feel lack a sense of passion in their job- they give no detailed instructions, they would do the bare minimal by giving the class a demonstration and leave it to you to trial and error, hoping you get it right by the end of 100 minutes. There are also those whom would give in-constructive feedback or make unnecessary passing remark not related to the lesson instead of giving constructive feedback to help correct your mistake as you go. Its days like that.... that really puts me off. Trainees only focus should be to receive constructive feedback and constantly correct themselves to master whats needed to get through every obstacle. All the disrespectful remarks, authoritarian attitude feels uncalled for and counter productive for learning. It makes the experience unpleasant when it doesnt have to be this way.

 

Its unfortunate there isnt an option to select a fixed instructors time table... or hire a private riding instructor to allow myself to learn in a way i find would help me better. And i do get that it is what it is, i need to learn to accept and deal with it.... Yesterday i had one of my worst days so far and went home just feeling like crap and wondering why i needed to take crap comments for something im paying for and wanting to do for the fun of it...... Decided to take some time off from the lesson to recharge myself enough before going back for lesson again.

 

Perhaps you had or am facing similar feelings, would be great to hear from you guys?

Thank you for reading.

hope you have already passed and got your license, and should be getting your class 2A in 2022....i too started late at the age of 34....and now before my 36 i got my class 2a...

[adesmond2]

20 hours ago, 鲁蛇不是鲁蛇 said:

hope you have already passed and got your license, and should be getting your class 2A in 2022....i too started late at the age of 34....and now before my 36 i got my class 2a...

hopefully... and hope that's she's not taking a break too long..

[paperger85]

Hey, I'm 36 female and also just enrolled  for my class 2B! I started taking my class 2b way back in 2007 but stopped after I fell off the bike during the crank course and dislocated my shoulder. 

Don't let it get to you. Take the failures in your stride. Let's both get class 2b,2a and 2 together then we can form a aunties riding club! Woo~!

[adesmond2]

On 7/31/2021 at 7:56 PM, paperger85 said:

Hey, I'm 36 female and also just enrolled  for my class 2B! I started taking my class 2b way back in 2007 but stopped after I fell off the bike during the crank course and dislocated my shoulder. 

Don't let it get to you. Take the failures in your stride. Let's both get class 2b,2a and 2 together then we can form a aunties riding club! Woo~!

hi there.. welcome back to Singapore Bike forum.. see your profile been around so long..

great to know that you are trying to get your 2B now.. what bike you looking at? the bike nowadays is a huge difference comparing back then and now.. haha

[Dex001]

Hi, sorry to intercepted the thread but just curious if the tester will the same for all the 3 centers ? Why does the testers give out crap reasons to fail people even without "IF" for so many tries? I'm really stress after failing so many attempts

[adesmond2]

2 hours ago, Dex001 said:

Hi, sorry to intercepted the thread but just curious if the tester will the same for all the 3 centers ? Why does the testers give out crap reasons to fail people even without "IF" for so many tries? I'm really stress after failing so many attempts

testers most likely different.. but again, even if for the same centre, testers are usually very impartial, they will only fail people whom doesn't ride safety or really go beyond the minimum requirement.