Love and Marriage

[Aie]

It is extremely hard to forgive and forget when you are betrayed like that. Some people have this thinking that 'Once a cheater, always a cheater'. There are no guarantees that he won't cheat on her again. Some guy cheaters are like that. They just love to play with fire. It gives them a thrill to cheat on their wives and not get caught. Bloody idiots...

[bui_da]

Want to forgive him. But then, I know I will remember it for life and will not trust him again. Things will never be the same. There will always be a barrier and suspicion. Live like that like v 'kan kor'.

 

wat if, rosndic's hubby is reli in a moment of folly/blindness?

in a stage of weakness he yielded to it?

 

Is that a gd reason? If this is acceptable, that means I can do it too? And there will be a second time. Cause it is such a convenient excuse. Maybe the generation now are more open to this. For me, there is no reason gd enough to do this.

 

I'm glad that guys like Aie and Haya^Busa are still around. They know what they can or canot do. They know the limit and will not cross the line. But I think guy like them have extinct.

 

Totally lost all my faith in love, marriage n guys. I have made my decision (divorce) and I know that it is the right one for me. But then, it is not going to be easy and I dunoe whether I can handle it. Cause there are memories of us everywhere. My heart hurts like hell every min every sec.

 

Even when I'm riding, i'm thinking about it. Sometimes just hope I kana accident and die. But I know it's not right.

[GerardSantaCruz]

your lovemate might not be your soulmate, and vice versa. if you can find a 2-in-1, it is a win-win situation. hmmm.. kinda technical huh

[devoted]

Originally posted by rosndic@Mar 5 2006, 10:25 AM

Want to forgive him. But then, I know I will remember it for life and will not trust him again. Things will never be the same. There will always be a barrier and suspicion. Live like that like v 'kan kor'.

 

wat if, rosndic's hubby is reli in a moment of folly/blindness?

in a stage of weakness he yielded to it?

 

Is that a gd reason? If this is acceptable, that means I can do it too? And there will be a second time. Cause it is such a convenient excuse. Maybe the generation now are more open to this. For me, there is no reason gd enough to do this.

 

I'm glad that guys like Aie and Haya^Busa are still around. They know what they can or canot do. They know the limit and will not cross the line. But I think guy like them have extinct.

 

Totally lost all my faith in love, marriage n guys. I have made my decision (divorce) and I know that it is the right one for me. But then, it is not going to be easy and I dunoe whether I can handle it. Cause there are memories of us everywhere. My heart hurts like hell every min every sec.

 

Even when I'm riding, i'm thinking about it. Sometimes just hope I kana accident and die. But I know it's not right.

then, its up to you loh~

 

as wat i've previously say is up to individual~

 

hmmm~ actually hor, u will so 'kan kor' bcos u keep thinking on his mistakes mah~

 

as wat i previously say, if you decide to forgive him then u've have to focus on the other side loh~

like, the sweet memories of your dating days, the sweet things he did for you, and the heart-touching moments on the day u married him or the 1st time u step into your new house, which belongs to 2 of you~

or,

if you have a child, then remember the day in the hospital where you & your hubby cuddle the sweet & fragile little babe in your arms which belongs to 2 of you~

 

actually, everyone makes mistakes, i know some mistakes is more difficult to forgive or pardon~ as wat i say is also depend on both of you lor~ his sincerity and his love towards you, and vice versa, yours towards him lor~

 

whether it is a good reason or acceptable or not, is reli up to each individual loh~

 

for me, if par-tor, then i'll reli dump him like my ex, but, if married already, mayb my handling style is quite different loh~ we have to look into or even consider factors like children, our own parents and our financial committment & etc lor~

and moreover, u say u married 3yrs only, if i assume you got your HDB flat on the day u married, now 3yrs only, want to sell your house also difficult rite?

 

sigh~

anyway, above is my point of view lah, my advice may not be appropriate as you, uncle haya or uncle aie who are so much older,

but,

still i want to give u my most sincere blessings~

[PaLmEr]

Originally posted by GerardSantaCruz@Mar 5 2006, 10:27 AM

your lovemate might not be your soulmate, and vice versa. if you can find a 2-in-1, it is a win-win situation. hmmm.. kinda technical huh

this quote i really have to agree with you.

[illusions]

Love is like chewing gum.... sweet in the start, tasteless as time goes by...

 

In the end, got $$ = Love...

[Aie]

Originally posted by ^devoted^@Mar 5 2006, 02:57 PM

anyway, above is my point of view lah, my advice may not be appropriate as you, uncle haya or uncle aie who are so much older,

but, still i want to give u my most sincere blessings~

It is not that I am being petty but could you not call me uncle? Unless of course if you are 15 years old and below, then calling me uncle would be appropriate. Address me as just Aie or big bro Aie. You calling me uncle makes me feel like I so very old like that. Right, Haya^Busa?

[devoted]

Originally posted by Aie@Mar 5 2006, 06:30 PM

It is not that I am being petty but could you not call me uncle? Unless of course if you are 15 years old and below, then calling me uncle would be appropriate. Address me as just Aie or big bro Aie. You calling me uncle makes me feel like I so very old like that. Right, Haya^Busa?

LOLx~

 

sure sure~

no problem~

 

 

Brother Aie~

 

 

i tot woman only, guys oso so particular~

pengzzzz~

 

[Aie]

Originally posted by ^devoted^@Mar 5 2006, 06:42 PM

LOLx~

 

sure sure~

no problem~

 

 

Brother Aie~

 

 

i tot woman only, guys oso so particular~

pengzzzz~

 

Thanks. Now you've made my day. I happy liao...

[devoted]

Originally posted by Aie@Mar 5 2006, 06:45 PM

Thanks. Now you've made my day. I happy liao...

ya lor~ borther Aie~

 

 

LOLx~

no wonder ur Mrs is worried abt you~ :P

[Aie]

Originally posted by ^devoted^@Mar 5 2006, 06:47 PM

ya lor~ borther Aie~

 

 

LOLx~

no wonder ur Mrs is worried abt you~ :P

I know I'm pushing it a little but could you change brother Aie to bro Aie instead. Calling me Brother Aie makes me feel like I'm a priest... Thanks...

[devoted]

Originally posted by Aie@Mar 5 2006, 07:05 PM

I know I'm pushing it a little but could you change brother Aie to bro Aie instead. Calling me Brother Aie makes me feel like I'm a priest... Thanks...

sure~ no problem, your wish is my commend~

 

haahaaa~

 

reli pengzzzz.....

call u juz Aie lah,

u so troublesome~

 

LOLx~

[Grave65]

wah ... so envy u all ...

 

actually if i post my personal problem ... i tink many ppl will say i m a dumb idiot

 

haiz

wat to do ... wat is done is done

[butterscotch]

every family has its problems.. just that how you are going to handle it..

[Aie]

Originally posted by Grave65@Mar 5 2006, 09:04 PM

wah ... so envy u all ...

 

actually if i post my personal problem ... i tink many ppl will say i m a dumb idiot

 

haiz

wat to do ... wat is done is done

I won't think that. Come lah. Share your problem with us...

[PaLmEr]

Originally posted by Aie@Mar 5 2006, 06:30 PM

It is not that I am being petty but could you not call me uncle? Unless of course if you are 15 years old and below, then calling me uncle would be appropriate. Address me as just Aie or big bro Aie. You calling me uncle makes me feel like I so very old like that. Right, Haya^Busa?

i HATE it too when ppl call me Unker lor.

[devoted]

 

i know why~

 

 

 

they called wrongly rite?

 

shld call you Auntie mah~

[Aie]

Originally posted by ^devoted^@Mar 6 2006, 05:36 PM

 

i know why~

 

 

 

they called wrongly rite?

 

shld call you Auntie mah~

Or Ah Kong maybe???

[devoted]

 

 

Aie~ u

 

[mero]

I have always believed that everything that we do is a result of our decision.

 

One decides if he/she wants to start a relationship with another person,

You decide to marry the man/woman of ur life, etc.

 

The marriage vow is also the promise of a decision to stay with your partner for better or worse, in sickness or in good health.. So there is not such things as cannot help it, it's all excuses..

 

Even when facing temptation, it's still your own decision whether to give in or not. Simple example: all of us does do simple shopping, you'll have some things that you are tempted to buy though you know that your financial ability doesn't allow you to. But yet, when you CHOSE to buy that item against all odds, then dun blame the item for tempting you coz it's a decision that you make. Note: you have a choice to walk away from that temptation.

 

Sorry, I may not have been married but I believe that once my partner is unfaithful, there's no need for any discussion anymore.. To me, if he knows that having an affair will hurt me tremendously, yet he still went ahead with it, this already tells me how much he "loves" me..

 

Finding excuses for him or focusing on the good times we had is only going to add more salt to my wound coz I'll be wondering, the man who claims to love me that much is also hurting me equally deep..

[devoted]

[samurai dragon]

Marriage

 

some people say that love die after marriage.

 

I say that not true! after marriage if you don't work hard on your relationship with your partner of cause your partners and you will feel and think that your partners do not love you any more.

 

after marriage you should continue go out together keep the romantic spirit going.

you can go for movies, candle light dinner, oversae trip together or rent a boat for romantic dinner.

 

 

long distance relationship

 

yes, i agreed long distance relationship is not easy.

 

if you really love that person very much you must have fateful and trust.

is all depend how much you love him or her

(just like in any martial art you need to have self-control,discipline)

 

temptation

 

yes, there a lot of temptation out there.

again if you do not have self discipline, self control you are a loser.

i believe in any relationship one should not give in to temptation

no body feel good if you found out that your partner is cheating on you.

I also agreed in DIY in order do keep your partner.

[StaN]

Originally posted by Aie@Mar 5 2006, 06:30 PM

It is not that I am being petty but could you not call me uncle? Unless of course if you are 15 years old and below, then calling me uncle would be appropriate. Address me as just Aie or big bro Aie. You calling me uncle makes me feel like I so very old like that. Right, Haya^Busa?

it's ok by me coz the tag uncle has stuck on me liao.. lol

 

i say dun call me uncle.. call me by name n they will say respect u den call u uncle wor... bo pian lor have to accept lolzz..

[devoted]

Originally posted by Haya^Busa@Mar 7 2006, 04:08 PM

it's ok by me coz the tag uncle has stuck on me liao.. lol

 

i say dun call me uncle.. call me by name n they will say respect u den call u uncle wor... bo pian lor have to accept lolzz..

yah~ yah~

 

bery bery soon,

they will promote you to ah gong (aka grandpa) liao~

 

rite?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Haya Gong Gong~

 

 

[Eeleenz]

erm~ i didnt vote leh.. coz for mi, i dun realli believe in true love. but i will still stay faithful. coz most of e time, i got cheated by bf. lolx...