Cheeko's Outing

[AhShin]

TPY Botak Jones, anyone wanna try tonite???

[hachi]

Bedok Botak jones..Anyone wanna eat for supper...Pls msg mi..before 12am

[aub]

I miss the Botak Jones fries...

[cheeko]

wah lan a!! u all not steady. How abt this sat evening botak jones?

[hachi]

Which outlet?

[cheeko]

Which outlet?

 

depot road outlet swee bo hachi?!

[cheeko]

testing article

 

 

The Middle Ages

Your vision of retirement could be all wrong

Susan Reimer

December 2, 2007

Boomers, I think, anticipate their retirement in ways

our parents did not.

We not only save for it -- our parents expected their

companies to sustain them and we do not -- we think

of retirement as a well-deserved vacation, while our

parents might have felt discarded, put out to pasture.

Some of my fellow boomers can't imagine not

working and expect to leave their offices on a gurney.

Some don't believe they will ever be able to afford

not to work.

But some imagine a retirement filled with recreation,

hobbies, travel and grandchildren. After a lifetime of

striving, they believe they will finally be happy.

They are probably wrong.

Daniel Gilbert, a professor of psychology at Harvard and author of Stumbling on Happiness, now in

paperback, makes the case that, while human beings are the only species that can imagine what the

future will be like, we are forever getting it wrong.

In his delightfully amusing but soundly argued book, he says that we can't know what will make us

happy in the future because we will change between now and when the future arrives.

The person we imagine ourselves to be when we retire will be a different person than the person we

are now, imagining our retirement.

"It is easier to simulate what is going to happen in the future," said Gilbert in a telephone interview,

"than it is to simulate the person that it is going to happen to."

We can imagine the gold watch and the moving van taking us to Arizona, he said. And the person

who will be pocketing that watch and making that move will have our face and our fingerprints, but

will think and react just a little bit differently -- just enough to change the response to this

experience.

Also, he writes, our imagination is so faulty -- and our brain relies so much on cognitive short cuts --

that we build a vision of the future based on false or at least misleading information.

Like the woman who remembers childbirth as less painful that it actually was.

"The classic mistake is thinking that the things we enjoy the most in small doses in our daily life are

things that we will enjoy in big doses," he said.

"We understand this about food. If someone offered you a bite of chocolate or even two bites of

chocolate, you would say, 'Yum.'

"But if someone offered you 3,000 bites of chocolate, you instinctively know it would make you

sick."

We probably think that playing golf every day -- something we only get to do during a couple of

precious weekends a year -- would make us happy.

But what if it is like 3,000 bites of chocolate?

Gilbert has all sorts of science to back up his argument that we are deluded -- not just about the past,

which we mis-remember, but about the future, which we invent.

Gilbert recommends that if we want to know if some choice or some event -- like buying a dog,

having children or retiring -- will make us happy, we ask people who actually have a dog, children or

have retired what it is like.

(On the topic of children, Gilbert writes in Stumbling on Happiness that indicators of happiness are

actually lowest among those who have children but increase exponentially as the children leave the

nest, whereupon we mis-remember what a joy it was to raise them. )

But we don't ask others what it is like to have a dog or children, or what it is like to retire, because

we don't believe their experiences apply to us. We think we are special.

We're not, argues Gilbert. What makes other people happy will probably make us happy, too.

But what if the loss of the structure of a job, what if the loss of a paycheck that says we are worth

something, what if the extra down time allows the dark thoughts to creep in -- what if retirement

does not make us happy?

There are dozens of books on the subject, but the bottom line seems to be that happiness comes from

connections with friends and family and doing good -- anything from building houses for the

homeless to simply smiling at strangers on the street.

One could argue that we will have more time for both of those things when we retire.

[frozenfire]

test...test..

[hachi]

wah lan a!! u all not steady. How abt this sat evening botak jones?

 

Swee lah unless raining...What time??

[cheeko]

Swee lah unless raining...What time??

 

abt 7pm, me, my fren, weilun,hippo, duncan on. Francis is pending. which branch we have not decide yet

[299]

Sat working nite. test...test.....

[ethanleeqh]

asdasdasasdsadasdasffg

[acesiew]

abt 7pm, me, my fren, weilun,hippo, duncan on. Francis is pending. which branch we have not decide yet

 

wah liew...cheeko always plan on the day i have dinner with others one,... u no gd ar.,..

[Pillion_Hippo]

abt 7pm, me, my fren, weilun,hippo, duncan on. Francis is pending. which branch we have not decide yet

 

test..DEPOT??

test..dun think we cant mk it at 7pm..he wont knock off so earli wan..

test...he gotta send his bangladesh frens back hm..

test..prob 830pm?

[cheeko]

test..DEPOT??

test..dun think we cant mk it at 7pm..he wont knock off so earli wan..

test...he gotta send his bangladesh frens back hm..

test..prob 830pm?

 

aiyo........8.30pm we maybe finish liao loh.....its holiday session, y need to work so late? job throw 1 side join us lah

[Pillion_Hippo]

aiyo........8.30pm we maybe finish liao loh.....its holiday session, y need to work so late? job throw 1 side join us lah

 

bo bian lei...he has to wrk hard to pay for his "bud's hospital bills" lei...

anyway he said ok!!! but we wont b so earli..

as for seastorm morn dim sum we cfrn nt gng le...

[acesiew]

aiyo........8.30pm we maybe finish liao loh.....its holiday session, y need to work so late? job throw 1 side join us lah

 

you sure or not... throw one side.... lol

[Wildcat]

ace, sat night, you throw ur frens one side and join botak jones outing lah

 

or you ask them join u eat botak jones lor

[cheeko]

ok at the moment, the person confirm going for movie/botak jones at angmokio today are

 

duncan

cheeko

299

ace

francis

hachi

weilun

hippo

 

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Singapore 560529

Phone / Fax: 6755-1-225

Everyday 11:30 noon til 10:00 pm

NEW OUTLET - Re-Opens on the 17th of December 2007

 

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[Qranc21]

Steady la.... But movie later on.. most probably not going..

[jason_fz6]

hi guys as mentioned, the chrustmas eve bbq is impossible, because ALL the bbq pits in the whole of sgp has been booked for xmas eve.

 

you can check and book here

 

http://203.208.249.111/NParks/Internet/

 

 

xmas day still have.

 

can i have a show of hands who can make it on xmas day?

 

1. jason and pillion!

2.

3.

4.

5.

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[Seastorm]

Testing... What happend to our Cameron tread?

[Erotomania]

Testing... What happend to our Cameron tread?

 

the cameron tread is still there, need to click in "Malaysia Trip"

[cheeko]

hi guys as mentioned, the chrustmas eve bbq is impossible, because ALL the bbq pits in the whole of sgp has been booked for xmas eve.

 

you can check and book here

 

http://203.208.249.111/NParks/Internet/

 

 

xmas day still have.

 

can i have a show of hands who can make it on xmas day?

 

1. jason and pillion!

2. cheeko

3.

4.

5.

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.

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i am ok, but try to start BBQ earlier can?!

[PinKcHicK]

wow.. BBQ! can i go?